pink and sparkle

by MrsFatass on September 13, 2010

Dear Thing Two:

Today when you wake up you’ll be three. Well, not exactly at the point you wake up (which, if recent history teaches us anything, will be at 2, 4, or 6:30), but sometime later in the morning the official time will come. If only I could remember that official time. I am bad about all those details – the time and the weight and APGAR and all those details that good moms remember.

I don’t remember any of it. I think I have one of your birth announcements in my car, though. I’ll check it and get back if you really want to know.

What I do remember is all the hope we pinned on you. You poor little peanut, being born having no idea how many of us needed you to remind us about peace and joy and excitement. Your Dad and I were having kind of a hard year with work and money and general crap going on. Then your Papoo got really sick. Your Yaya wouldn’t leave his side and dedicated her every moment to getting him well. It was a time where we all felt a lot of stress and fear and for me, of course, anxiety.

And we were all waiting for you. Beautiful tiny you. You came along and made us all breath a long, slow sigh of relief.

I wonder sometimes if all of that pressure and expectation had anything to do with your exploding personality. You, my dear girl, are fearless. You sing and dance your way through every day. I hear you play make-believe with your babies and your stuffed animals. You ask questions and engage people in conversation. You smile and giggle and flirt. You know how to turn on the charm. And I think sometimes that maybe because we counted on your birth to be that thing to distract us from all of the hardships going on around us is why you are such an attention grabber.

You are. You are a performer. Your batting eyelashes and infectious smile and squeals of glee and amazing sentence structure commands attention. A lot of it.

I talk a lot about how your brother is so much like me, but you know what? You are too. You’ve got that part of me that craves somebody to see you. The real you. The inside you.

Right now it’s all about capturing everybody’s eyes. Pretty Princess clothes and “look what I can do” and “clap for me, Mommy.” But I can see your future. I know you’ll probably try too hard to be popular when people would like you anyway even if you didn’t work so hard to be cool. You’ll want a boyfriend, yes, but even more than that you’ll want a best friend. A very very best friend who knows you better than anybody. You’ll discover a love (and maybe even an addiction) to applause. To instant gratification. To approval.

And if you’re really like me, you’ll also flounder a bit. You’ll run and hide and feel generally unsure. You’ll know you have an ability to affect people, but you’ll spend a lot of time trying to figure out the how.

Now, I don’t expect your whole life to be nothing but repeating my history; I’m not dooming you to my paths or my choices or my mistakes. But what I do see in you, baby angel, is that you seek attention in a very different way than your brother. You work really hard for it, even when you don’t have to.

Because the thing is, people will notice you even if you don’t try so hard for the spotlight. It’s just in you, babygirl. You have a light around you. You will be noticed.

But what I hope for you most of all, my beautiful three year old, is that you find that person who will not just notice you, but who will really see you. So that you’ll know you’re never alone. You always have someone in your corner. Someone who knows the you you are on the inside.

Your birthday celebration is full of pink and sparkle and magic wands and tiaras. I hope it’s exactly the way you want it to be. Three years ago we needed you to come into our lives to bring us back into the light. And you, my little Care Bear, have done it.

Happy Birthday. Mommy loves you.

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{ 32 comments… read them below or add one }

MizFit September 13, 2010 at 5:55 am


and HAPPY BIRTHDAY to your girl.
I too wish that she find friend/people/surrounds herself with those who really SEE HER.

As I grow old and sappy I find my child and I read the book (of the lyrics. its a picture book) FOREVER YOUNG over and over and over.

May your girl's song always be sung.



Mishe@EatingJourney September 13, 2010 at 6:09 am

Oh my heavens..when you screamed "NO" when singing to Miz..i almosted died. I hope that when I have kids I adore them as much as your mama and dada do 🙂

have a wonderful day today.


JourneyBeyondSurvival September 13, 2010 at 6:45 am

The picture of the two of you-when Thing Two is wearing 'Melmo'-is one of the most authentic I've seen. Of YOU. I love that smile. Your eyes are dancing. You are even more lovely than your words.

Which is really really saying something.


Ryan @NoMoreBacon September 13, 2010 at 8:30 am

Ahh crap I'm a sap. She's a doll and I hope her day is awesome!

And at 3 she's sporting an armband tat.

And I do love the pic of you and thing two laying down!



Laurie September 13, 2010 at 8:44 am

Thing 2: Happy Birthday!!
Enjoy the pink and sparkles. Your mommy rocks, you are so lucky to have her. Now, when you are a teenager, I will be reminding you that because you might forget for a day or two (somehow mine has for a couple of years). But, you will always know what a loving, caring, and knee slapping funny mommy you have. Have a great day Mama and baby.


Momma On The Run September 13, 2010 at 8:57 am

Happy Birthday to your little girl!

This is so sweet. I hope she has the best pink sparkley birthday ever!


Jessica September 13, 2010 at 9:06 am

This made my heart feel so warm! You have a beautiful little girl. It's a happy birthday to you too, Momma!


Jenn September 13, 2010 at 9:07 am

Happy Birthday, Thing 2! A pink, sparkley birthday is what every girl hopes for! Enjoy it!


Steve September 13, 2010 at 9:14 am

Happy Birthday Little One!


Jack Sh*t, Gettin' Fit September 13, 2010 at 9:41 am

Three years old! Take a deep breath, because she'll be dating in about 20 minutes…


Kerri O September 13, 2010 at 9:52 am

That. Was. Beautiful.


MsGigglepuss September 13, 2010 at 10:16 am

Awww, so much love in this post! I'm a bit teary-eyed here… Remember to remind her years down the road, when she'll need to really hear it (even though she may not act like it!)

Happy Birthday, Thing Two!


Katy September 13, 2010 at 11:10 am

I love the picture of you and her lying down and you looking at her…pure love.


Kelsey September 13, 2010 at 11:25 am

So, this made me tear up a little.

It is actually my mother's birthday today, too. This made me think of her and our relationship.

Thank you for writing it, and I wish you and your daughter a very special 3rd birthday.


Sonya @ Eyes on the Hourglass September 13, 2010 at 12:30 pm

So precious! Care Bear is lucky to have a mommy like you!


bbubblyb September 13, 2010 at 12:48 pm

Happy Birthday to the little care bear *smile*!!!! What a sweet story.


Katie J September 13, 2010 at 1:23 pm

She is a little angel and I hope she has a pink, glittery, happy day of fun! xoxo


Renée aka Mekhismom September 13, 2010 at 1:58 pm

Happy Birthday to your little one. This is a beautiful post.


bookieboo September 13, 2010 at 3:47 pm

Very sweet. Happy birthday darling! XXOO


TJ September 13, 2010 at 4:47 pm

awww happy birthday thing 2 🙂 xoxo


Rachel September 13, 2010 at 6:41 pm

Such a sweet post (and, her eyes are STUNNING).

Happy birthday to your little girl.


Results Not Typical Girl September 13, 2010 at 9:41 pm

kiss your princess blessing for me. love ya like angel food cake the day after weigh-in. 😉


Marie September 13, 2010 at 11:29 pm

Happy Birthday special girl!! I love the pic of her running away (just bottom half of her showing) so priceless! Your post brought tears to my eyes! (I'm a terrible softy) Happy day to you and her!


kia September 14, 2010 at 8:41 am

Happy Belated Birthday! Such a sweet post.


gretablau September 14, 2010 at 9:56 am

Wow that is one lucky kid. Thanks for sharing that!!


Stephanie September 14, 2010 at 12:18 pm

Awww, happy birthday to your beautiful Thing Two. What a sweet girl


Rob Dyess September 14, 2010 at 3:38 pm

You might want to rethink putting your children in Michigan gear… you can be arrested for child endangerment for that!



Drazil September 14, 2010 at 8:34 pm

Sugar and spice and everything nice. Please promise me you'll save this and let her read it some day. It will be one of her most prized possessions….I am sure of it.


@PamelaMKramer - A Renaissance Woman September 15, 2010 at 1:58 am

We have that American bikini too! How adorable is it? Happy Birthday to your cutie pie.


finallygettingfit September 16, 2010 at 7:13 am

(Dang the tears…)

I hope your girl had a marvelous birthday and was everything her little 3 year old heart hoped it would be.-


Merri September 16, 2010 at 6:34 pm

another great blog! she's so cute!


Pinky Promise September 16, 2010 at 10:13 pm

aaaaw she's adorable! 🙂


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